Helen Fisher author of “Why Him? Why Her?” devised a compatibility test which has been tried and tested by thousands if not millions for dating site(s). Fisher is a Biological Anthropologist and has identified 4 broad personality styles associated with different chemical systems in the brain. She calls the 4 broad personality types as the Explorer, the Builder, the Negotiator and the Director.
The Explorer – risk-taker and impulsive
The explorer wants somebody who goes adventuring with them. There are a lot of ways to explore, but they want someone to share it with.
The Builder – cautious and loyal
The builder is looking for help mates’, somebody who can help them build their social network with them, help them build a home and family.
The Negotiator – imaginative and compassionate
The negotiator wants the soul mate: they want to know how you feel, they want to know intricacies of what they meant by what you said; they want their partners to ask them how they’re doing.
The Director – analytical and decisive
The director wants a mind mate, someone they can share ideas with.
Fisher explains that ‘I found explorers primarily go for explorers, dramatically more than any type, builders go for builders but the director goes for the negotiator and the negotiator goes for the director. It doesn’t matter whether you’re male or female.’
She acknowledges other factors play a role too like the same socio-economic background, same level of intelligence and looks, same religious values etc. Fisher explores each personality type in detail, showing you how to identify your own type as well as explaining why some types match up well, while others can prove problematic.
Why don’t you take the test at http://www.chemistry.com/whyhimwhyher/
Identify your own type and the type you’re attracted to, to find the one!
The test revealed my personality as being an Explorer, Director & Builder. So I am looking for a personality profile of someone who is an Explorer, Negotiator & Builder. So please get in touch with your results and debate whether it’s a true reflection of your personality. Good luck
On a personal note here is some Inspiration for each personality type:
The Explorer
Let us not follow where the path my lead.
Let us go instead where there is no path,
And leave a trail. Japanese Proverb
The Builder
Be faithful to that which exists now here but in yourself -
And thus make yourself indispensable. Andre Gide
The Negotiator
I remember everything simultaneously;
Like the distant beam of a distant lighthouse,
I carry the universe before me
Like an easy burden in an outstretched palm,
And in the depths, mysteriously growing, is the seed
Of what is to come. Anna Akhmatova
The Director
Only he who keeps his eyes fixed on the far horizon
will find his right road. Dag Hammar SK Jo
Monday, 2 August 2010
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