Relationship Goals

I would like to thank Shilpa for inviting me onto her blog for a series of short articles that will help you envision and attract your perfect soul mate. This is a new area for me as my usual role as a coach involves helping people and businesses set exciting goals and supporting them to develop the confidence to achieve them.
Goal setting is applied by most successful people and businesses because it allows them to be clear about what hey actually want and then set a plan towards achieving it. It’s no different in finding your perfect relationship. But what exactly does that person look like and what specific characteristics are you looking for in your perfect partner?

The main reason I recommend you take the time to set a relationship goal is because you will have defined your perfect relationship, isn’t that what you want? Or are you willing to settle for 2nd best and maybe a person who isn’t right for you. By setting yourself a clear goal you are making a choice to take control of your life and the people you attract into it.

How to set relationship goal:
By following the SMART goal setting process you can set relationships goals that define who you want, why you want that person, as well as setting a plan of action around achieving your goal.

1. Specifically describe the person you want: how do they look, how old are they, where do they come from, what job do they have, what is there attitude to life, what values do they have, what is so special about this person? What other things are you wanting in this person?

2. Don’t be afraid to add a measure to this goal. Things such as age, annual salary, number of children or ex-partners etc are all things you can measure that may be important to you.

3. The goal should be appropriate and there should be a very good reason you want it. Create a list of as many reason why having this person in your life is important to you and how this will make you feel. When you achieve this goal, will it affect anybody else in a negative way such as your children and family culture etc.

4. Be realistic! If you fancy Brad Pitt or Cheryl Cole then what is the chances of marrying them? If you feel that it is a realistic possibility, then great! Otherwise make sure the goal is possible for you, that way you can remain motivated that your goal will be achieved.

5. When would you realistically like to have met this person? Set a time to this goal that is realistic and takes into consideration all the other things happening in your life right now.

6. All goals should be written down. Don’t just think it – ink it, as this ensures you have fully digested and understood who you are asking for. The goal should also be stated in the present tense as if you have already achieved it.

Relationship Goal Example
Today is Oct 29th 2012 and I am married to the woman of my dreams who has blonde hair, blue eyes, is 5’10” tall and is a size 12. She is sexy, smart and loving. She works as a doctor helping other people and earns £50k or more.
What’s your Goal? Take action and follow the steps above.
In my next article we’ll look at how to be more attractive so that you can meet that special one. Happy goal setting.

Adam

Adam Eccleston works professionally as a confidence coach helping people achieve more in life. Visit his website for more information. www.adameccleston.com