How are your goals going and are you becoming more attractive? Be patient… as the Guinness advert used to say – Good things come to those who wait.
For my final article I would like give you some support on connecting better with the people you meet, this in turn will improve your interactions and boost your confidence. After all now that you have your goals and you are beginning to attract the dream relationship into your life I guess you want to feel confident in your interactions.
When you talk to your best friend it’s likely your in natural rapport, you are comfortable and it just feels right. How would it be if you could connect like this in your romantic relationships like when you go on a date? Well you can… by following some simple steps you can make a better connection and leave a lasting impression:
Body Language – watch how the other person is holding their body posture and mirror this slightly. For instance, if she is tilting her head then you should mirror this. Likewise if he is sat with his legs crossed taping his feet then without becoming obvious you could match this. There are many other physical aspects we could be in rapport with; these also include speed of blinking, depth of breathing and how often you smile!
Our Words – the language we use is very personal to us, our words and how we say them can be matched to create rapport. When talking to somebody you may use their power words, those words they seem to say often and especially with enthusiasm. Matching how the other person talk is also a great way to connect. If they speak slower than you then I suggest you slow down a little and visa versa for fast talkers.
Listen Carefully – nothing is more annoying when somebody doesn’t listen, if you truly want to build rapport then I suggest you listen to the other person like they were the only person in your life at that time that mattered to you. When you listen you show the other person you are interested – this will make them more interested in you. Remember, we were born with 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason!
I hope the 3 blogs have been of interest to you and that they help you in your relationships. Thank you to Shilpa for inviting me as her guest blogger.
Best Regards,
Adam
Adam Eccleston works professionally as a confidence coach helping people achieve more in life. Visit his website for more information. www.adameccleston.com
Tuesday, 9 November 2010
Monday, 1 November 2010
Are you Attractive?
Welcome to my 2nd guest blog for Shilpa at mistry Marketing & Events, I hope you enjoyed my 1st blog on setting relationship goals. This weeks blog follows on perfectly from setting goals, however if relationship goals aren’t for you then that’s OK because if you’re an attractive person you might not need them…
So, are you an attractive person? I guessing right now your thinking; I am a good looking, are my teeth white enough, do I have a nice smile and am I really sexy? Well stop right there because I am not referring to how good you look in a pair of speedo shorts or a silky dress!
Being attractive as a person is all about attracting all the things and in this case the right person into your life. I believe that you simply cannot go chasing after the person you want even if you have set your relationship goals. The benefit to defining the perfect relationship for yourself is that your sub-conscious mind knows what you want. The subconscious mind is our personal servant, it responds to what we tell it – even more so it can attract the ideal relationships you choose to focus on. How this all works is beyond the scope of this blog, but if your curious I would recommend you read up on the law of attractive or the power of the sub-conscious mind.
The key to attracting the perfect partner is knowing the type of person and relationship you really want and focusing on that all day. By focusing on what you do want all day, you simply begin to set the momentum of attracting the circumstances you want. But remember you get what you focus on all day, so don’t focus on the fact that you are single or are unhappy about your relationships. Instead stay focused on what you do want and act as if your have this already.
Be appreciative of all the good things you have in your life right now and find as many ways to feel good about yourself. When you feel good – you allow your dreams and goals to manifest in your life!
To keep all this simple I offer you the following action steps to becoming an attractive person:
1. Follow blog 1 and define what you really want.
2. Stop focusing on what you don’t have.
3. Start to appreciate what you do have.
4. Act as if you already have your perfect relationship – feel good!
5. Be an attractive person and allow the perfect partner to find you.
Best Regards,
Adam
Adam Eccleston works professionally as a confidence coach helping people achieve more in life. Visit his website for more information. www.adameccleston.com
So, are you an attractive person? I guessing right now your thinking; I am a good looking, are my teeth white enough, do I have a nice smile and am I really sexy? Well stop right there because I am not referring to how good you look in a pair of speedo shorts or a silky dress!
Being attractive as a person is all about attracting all the things and in this case the right person into your life. I believe that you simply cannot go chasing after the person you want even if you have set your relationship goals. The benefit to defining the perfect relationship for yourself is that your sub-conscious mind knows what you want. The subconscious mind is our personal servant, it responds to what we tell it – even more so it can attract the ideal relationships you choose to focus on. How this all works is beyond the scope of this blog, but if your curious I would recommend you read up on the law of attractive or the power of the sub-conscious mind.
The key to attracting the perfect partner is knowing the type of person and relationship you really want and focusing on that all day. By focusing on what you do want all day, you simply begin to set the momentum of attracting the circumstances you want. But remember you get what you focus on all day, so don’t focus on the fact that you are single or are unhappy about your relationships. Instead stay focused on what you do want and act as if your have this already.
Be appreciative of all the good things you have in your life right now and find as many ways to feel good about yourself. When you feel good – you allow your dreams and goals to manifest in your life!
To keep all this simple I offer you the following action steps to becoming an attractive person:
1. Follow blog 1 and define what you really want.
2. Stop focusing on what you don’t have.
3. Start to appreciate what you do have.
4. Act as if you already have your perfect relationship – feel good!
5. Be an attractive person and allow the perfect partner to find you.
Best Regards,
Adam
Adam Eccleston works professionally as a confidence coach helping people achieve more in life. Visit his website for more information. www.adameccleston.com
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