Are you Connecting?

How are your goals going and are you becoming more attractive? Be patient… as the Guinness advert used to say – Good things come to those who wait.

For my final article I would like give you some support on connecting better with the people you meet, this in turn will improve your interactions and boost your confidence. After all now that you have your goals and you are beginning to attract the dream relationship into your life I guess you want to feel confident in your interactions.

When you talk to your best friend it’s likely your in natural rapport, you are comfortable and it just feels right. How would it be if you could connect like this in your romantic relationships like when you go on a date? Well you can… by following some simple steps you can make a better connection and leave a lasting impression:

Body Language – watch how the other person is holding their body posture and mirror this slightly. For instance, if she is tilting her head then you should mirror this. Likewise if he is sat with his legs crossed taping his feet then without becoming obvious you could match this. There are many other physical aspects we could be in rapport with; these also include speed of blinking, depth of breathing and how often you smile!

Our Words – the language we use is very personal to us, our words and how we say them can be matched to create rapport. When talking to somebody you may use their power words, those words they seem to say often and especially with enthusiasm. Matching how the other person talk is also a great way to connect. If they speak slower than you then I suggest you slow down a little and visa versa for fast talkers.

Listen Carefully – nothing is more annoying when somebody doesn’t listen, if you truly want to build rapport then I suggest you listen to the other person like they were the only person in your life at that time that mattered to you. When you listen you show the other person you are interested – this will make them more interested in you. Remember, we were born with 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason!

I hope the 3 blogs have been of interest to you and that they help you in your relationships. Thank you to Shilpa for inviting me as her guest blogger.

Best Regards,
Adam
Adam Eccleston works professionally as a confidence coach helping people achieve more in life. Visit his website for more information. www.adameccleston.com